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Learn How to Flirt - The Secret to Successful Dating

"Different genders are on the exact same page... just in different books!"

I am very excited to connect with you and to get those inspirational juices flowing when it comes to...

Relationships, Attraction, Dating and Intimacy

Flirtylicious is a series online Playshops.

Think of a Playshop as a fun Masterclass where we will come together to learn about human attraction and flirting. These will be open to different genders. There will also be some flirtation practice during the sessions, to demonstrate what cool skills you are learning in real time. To show you how simple it can actually be, when you learn how to and get to experience it for yourself.

When it comes to modern-day love, dating and relationships, it can be confusing to know what to do or what to say, when there is attraction in the air.

Why do dating apps work for others but not for me?

Did I just miss a huge signal to ask them out?

Also Recommended for Married & Long-Term Couples

Flirting is something that should not end once a couple has exchanged vows for life. Romance and attraction are energies that should be nurtured and cultivated. Making it difficult for that sexy spark to fizzle out, despite any dampening circumstances that life may throw at newly-weds or new parents.

People are constantly broadcasting and receiving information and communication without the use of verbal speech or language... like, a lot!!

Playshops allow me to also teach about subcommunication, visual non-verbal cues and human psychology. When you start to see more of this prominent yet unspoken language, you will not be able to unsee your cool new superpowers!

Open The Door To Your Hidden Possibilities

This embodied skillset is also very useful in that you can have the confidence to show up in the digital or non-digital world feeling inspired and more empowered straight after a Playshop.

All sexual orientations, all genders and non binary people are welcome in The Attraxion Playhouse.

You will be invited to ask questions related to your specific challenges to do with women when it comes to attraction, relationships, intimacy and dating.

You will be supported in learning how to...

This event will be in English only and the Zoom link will be sent out beforehand. There are a limited amount of spaces per Zoom session, so you're encouraged to book early to avoid disappointment.

You can book your free ticket for this Zoom Playshop on this page.

I also offer private 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals, for couples and for custom groups, both in person and online, so feel free to 

If you have any questions, you are welcome to 

I look forward to connecting with you soon.

Ryan Koriya, aka The Soul Mechanic, is a charismatic dating, relationship and intimacy coach who has been organically helping bridge the gap between the sexes for over two decades. He has been empowering women and men using 

 and personalised approach. Often drawing from his keen intuition, accumulated knowledge, years of experience and his education in fields such as relationship psychology, human behaviour, integrative hypnosis, public speaking, theatre, all the way to branding, marketing, self development, spirituality and energy modalities.

"Literally the world around me was full of potential but I was like a camera with a lens cap on, basically doing nothing. Days turned into months and months turned into years. Before I knew it, I was a 27 years old virgin man, struggling with life and unfortunately struggling to make friends or any sort of new friendship. The loneliness just seemed to be my way of life at this point.

No partner and definitely not sexually active. Watching all my friends flourishing around me in relationships and marriages, I felt this void would never truly be filled for me. I knew where I stood and I knew what could be achieved but I frustratingly couldn't see the steps to get there!

This is the stuff I began to learn with Ryan. Having zero sexual experience at my age, it was refreshing to hear from a trusted source and not the stuff we think is correct, such as pornographic content and unfortunately still, many unhealthy cultural norms. Learning how to effectively communicate better with the opposite sex is such an important and yet underrated skill. As a man, learning not to pretend to be something you are not, trying to portray this façade you think someone will love and accept. Having respect for myself too.

The way you treat yourself and carry yourself will set the tone for how people treat you.

I began to believe in myself and started to understand the ways of handling my emotions. Also starting to realize I can't control the actions of others and that truly I could only control mine. And that's what I needed to do.

I can recall one incident where a female friend of mine saw me walking across the street as she was driving. She pulled over to offer me a lift but I ran away, yes literally ran away! I know that raises so many questions, and frankly speaking, it happened so involuntarily. Yes, there was no threat or danger to my life or well-being in that moment. So what made me do that?!

​​Eventually I did find myself in a situation where I could progress and make a decent connection with a woman I met on a dating app. That led to me finally 'losing my virginity,' as they say. Interesting experience to say the least. It was surprisingly calmer than I expected it to be, but overall it was a good first time and she also had positive things to say, as if I'm a veteran at this! I'm grateful for the guidance I received beforehand as I have heard some first times don't go so well and lead to instant regret. Thank you for lifting me up from the murky depths of self doubt. I am now a different man!"

A Couple's Strong Positive Modelling of Masculinity

"My partner and I had been struggling to work through some recurring issues by ourselves for quite some time and knew we needed some pragmatic, solution-based support to move forward. I've always been quite hesitant about working with male coaches or therapists, never really quite feeling comfortable with them, but Ryan has so much warmth about him, I was surprised to notice how safe I felt during our initial conversation before the session. Wonderfully, my partner felt the same.

We both noted how he has a really safe, nurturing and loving masculine energy which neither of us had really encountered in many men in our lives. For my partner, this created a feeling of a strong positive modelling of masculinity that he'd not had in his own life and for me, Ryan's ability to hold space with a combination of strength, gentleness and boundaries dissolved my usual mistrust of men which has also been core to some of our issues. 

We both quite enjoyed filling out the short form he sent us beforehand, and though it felt like he really took the time to get to know us before diving in to exploring solutions, the first session alone gave us alot of insights and we left feeling resourced around next steps. He validated our respective experiences and even whilst recognising where we might be going wrong, acknowledged each of our reasons for doing so in a way that felt loving and relatable, never judgemental or accusatory. 

Ultimately, working with Ryan felt like hanging out over a glass of wine with a really wise, lovely friend who had both of our best interests at heart and wants to see us succeed.

Saved From Falling into Other Toxic Situations

"Through Ryan’s mentoring I have learned how to not take things personally, which has been a big problem for me in the past. I have given myself a hard time when a guy has shut down a relationship, backed off or walked away because of their own issues but they have also projected their issues onto me! Learning about projection was vital because people can project without even realising what they’re doing, and this is toxic!

With Ryan’s wise guidance I was able to see the light and recognise that I was doing all I could in my relationship and that my partner (at the time) would not meet me in the middle!

I felt supported and encouraged by Ryan’s mentoring, he views a situation from the outside, he looks closely, investigates and then explains what is happening. Being able to turn to Ryan has saved me from falling into other toxic situations.

Ryan understands that every individual is different, everyone has different perceptions of what love is and how they approach finding meaningful relationships. How important communication is and discussing exactly what a person wants first, before anything can happen! Through Ryan’s guidance, I have been able to understand that what people want must be respected and that it is just different from what we want sometimes, and there is no point in pushing someone to be something, or to want the same as you, when clearly, they do not!

Be that confident person, know your worth and know what you want and move forward, keep your options open and you’ll know when you’ve found that true love, if that’s what you desire!"

Flirtilicious - Aug 11 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

Attraction - For All Genders and Orientations

Let's face it. Love and Attraction are a complex sea to navigate for any human being, nevermind for a person who is embracing all the diverse colours of their personal expression.

No matter whether you are very sure or somewhat confused, or are currently experimenting with your own sexuality and intimacy expression, there are key elements to attraction that can help you find your way. Clearing the fog by understanding your own magnetism in relation to the world around you.

Nowadays, it may be frustrating to see other people who are bold, confident in themselves, charming and sexy. It is important to feel safe within one's self before being able to exude that same confidence outwards.

This Playshop is designed to help you take a look at how your own unique personality and innate expression can find a place to safely exist, regardless of what other people are doing or saying. 

Besides, we've all mostly never been taught how this all really works anyway!

Well, the good news is that I will be providing some helpful guidance for you to adopt within your daily life to help you dance your way into a more successful dating experience.

You will be invited to ask questions related to your specific challenges to do with dating as a member of the LGBTIQA+ community.

Electrify Your Rainbow - Aug 10 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

Learn How to Better Identify Men with High Integrity - For Women

"Women and men are on the exact same page... just in different books!"

​Men can be such a mystery for women and vice-versa. In this online Playshop for women, we will explore what naturally makes men different from women.

​Trying to read a man's actions or feel into his true intentions can be quite the puzzle to tackle for a lady who's interested in him. Unfortunately, there are times when even a man (or woman) doesn't really know what they actually feel, or what their true intentions really are at that moment. So how do you independently pre-qualify someone as a good potential match for you?

​Women have a strong intuition when it comes to these things. However, in matters of the heart; emotions, learned behaviours and past traumas can start to cloud things up, making it tricky to know what to do with any hunches early-on in the courtship phase.

​The good news is that I will be offering some guidance for you to explore, in order to help you identify a potential good match, or to know which men you should just respectfully let go of before things get any more unhealthy.

You will be invited to ask questions related to your specific challenges when it comes to men, attraction, relationships, intimacy and dating.

How To Identify A High-Value Man - Aug 9 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

Learn How to Navigate Online Dating - For All Genders and Orientations

Most people I speak to about dating apps, are either on there, feeling frustrated about what the 

 is bringing in, if anything even happens in the first place. Ladies, did you know that lots of men (and others) literally get zero matches, which can be very damaging to one's self esteem. Many people are totally against the idea of even trying to find a romantic partner online. Believe me, I know. I've been there, many a moon ago.

The truth is, dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Grindr, Happn etc, are useful for broadening your possibilities, no matter whether you are looking for something long-term, something serious or you're craving a casual dalliance. This online Playshop will help you swipe into exciting new territory, according to your desired destination of sauciness. There are all types of people online looking for all types of experiences, so having the right magnetic frequency is key.

Some of the exhilarating experiences I've had on dating apps sound like something from the movies! I will share some of my own experiences to demonstrate how these approaches that I teach do produce results.

Nowadays, so many frustrated women tell me how they struggle to find men who are bold, confident, charming, sexy and most importantly, men who they can trust, allowing them to feel safe enough to be in their true feminine essence and to have fun doing so.

Meanwhile, many men feel so much pressure to be all of the above and still have to compete with tons of usually self-unaware (toxic), more aggressive guys out there. So much so, that many men just don't even take action. Better safe than sorry, right?... Well, no action only guarantees no results.

Well, the good news is that I will be providing some helpful guidance for you to adopt within your digital dating strategy, to help you swipe your way into a successful dating experience.

You will be invited to ask questions related to your specific challenges to do with dating apps and online dating.

Dating Apps Decoded - Aug 8 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

Learn How to Better Understand Women - For Single or Coupled Men

"Men and women are on the exact same page... just in different books!"

Women can be such a mystery for men and vice-versa. In this Playshop for men, we will explore what naturally makes women different from us. 

The modern world has become a confusing place. Many men feel so much pressure to be the bold, confident, charming, sexy partner, or prospective partner that women seek. Ladies also truly desire a man that they can trust. Allowing them to feel safe enough to surrender to their true feminine essence, which creates even more attraction.

Polarity is the way of nature. A natural harmony of opposing forces that creates attraction. Like the magnetism of north and south, each of us has our own unique energetic frequency, which in turn interacts with that of another human being.

The more masculine you are as a man, the more feminine a woman feels. It's not just about acting a certain way or saying something you think she wants to hear. It's about embodying your natural masculine essence with integrity, in a mature and safe manner. This masculine energy can be felt by those around you, without you actually doing anything. 

The few men who have achieved this level of embodiment are in a different league and often have little to no competition when it comes to attracting a woman they may desire. They are playing by different rules than that of the average man.

Femininity is more about inner feelings and 'being', while masculinity tends to be more about outward action, mental logic and 'doing'. Men need to be in touch with both of these, in order to access their full potential. How can you attract or thrive with the feminine, if you don't know how to speak feminine? This may all sound a bit confusing...

Well, the good news is that I will be providing some helpful guidance for you to explore as you discover or further enhance your own true masculine essence.

DemystifyHer For Men - Aug 7 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

Men can be such a mystery for women and vice-versa. In this Playshop for women, we will explore what naturally makes men different from women. 

Trying to read a man's actions or feel into his true intentions can be quite the puzzle to tackle for a lady who's interested in him. Unfortunately, there are times when even a man (or woman) doesn't really know what they feel, or what their true intentions are at the moment. So how do you independently pre-qualify them as a good potential match for you?

Women have a strong intuition when it comes to these things. However, in matters of the heart, emotions, learned behaviours and past traumas can start to cloud things up, making it tricky to know what to do with any reservations early-on in the courtship phase.

The good news is that I will be offering some guidance for you to explore, in order to help you identify a potential good match, or to know which men you should just respectfully let go of before things get any more unhealthy.

If you are one of the first three people to book this Playshop, you can attend for free by using the discount coupon code 

 and click on 'apply coupon'. If it is too late, the code will not be usable. Good luck!😉

This event will be in English only and the Zoom link will be sent out 24 hours before. There are a limited amount of spaces per Zoom session, so book early to avoid disappointment.

You can purchase your ticket for the Zoom Playshop on this page using a Credit Card, a Debit Card, Apple Pay or Google Pay. If you would like to use PayPal, please email me on 

Ryan Koriya, aka The Soul Mechanic, is a charismatic dating, relationship and intimacy coach who has been organically helping bridge the gap between the sexes for about 26 years. He has been empowering women and men using a very practical, natural and personalised approach. Often drawing from his keen intuition, accumulated knowledge, years of experience and his education in fields such as relationship psychology, human behaviour, public speaking, theatre, all the way to branding, marketing, self development, spirituality and energy modalities.

Ryan understands that every individual is different, everyone has different perceptions of what love is, how they approach finding meaningful relationships, but what is certainly important is communication and discussing exactly what a person wants first, before anything can happen! Through Ryan’s guidance, I have been able to understand that what people want must be respected and that it is just different from what we want sometimes, and there is no point in pushing someone to be something, or to want the same as you, when clearly, they do not!

"Literally the world around me was full of potential but I was like a camera with a lens cap on, basically doing nothing. Days turned into months and months turned into years. Before I knew it, I was 27 years old, struggling with life and unfortunately struggling to make friends or any sort of relationship. The loneliness just seemed to be my way of life at this point.

No relationship and definitely not sexually active (a virgin). Watching all my friends flourishing around me in relationships and marriages, I felt this void would never truly be filled for me. I knew where I stood and I knew what could be achieved but I frustratingly couldn't see the steps to get there!

This is the stuff I began to learn with Ryan. Having zero sexual experience at my age, it was refreshing to hear from a trusted source and not the stuff we think is correct, such as pornographic content and unfortunately still, many unhealthy cultural norms. Learning how to effectively communicate better with the opposite sex is such an important and yet underrated skill. As a man, learning not to pretend to be something you are not, trying to portray this façade you think someone will love and accept. Having respect for myself too. The way you treat yourself and carry yourself will set the tone for how people treat you.

I began to believe in myself and started to understand the ways of handling my emotions. Also starting to realize I can't control the actions of others and that truly I could only control mine. And that's what I needed to do. I can recall one incident where a female friend of mine saw me walking across the street as she was driving. She pulled over to offer me a lift but I ran away, yes literally ran away! I know that raises so many questions, and frankly speaking, it happened so involuntarily. Yes, there was no threat or danger to my life or wellbeing in that moment. So what made me do that?!

Eventually I did find myself in a situation where I could progress and make a decent connection with a woman I met on a dating app. That led to me finally "popping my cherry" as they say. Interesting experience to say the least. It was surprisingly calmer than I expected it to be, but overall it was a good first time and she also had positive things to say, making it sound as if I'm a veteran at this! With help from the guidance I received beforehand. I have heard some first times don't go so well and lead to instant regret. Thank you for lifting me up from the murky depths of self doubt. I am now a different man!"

High-Value Man Code For Women - Dec 18 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

The modern world has become a confusing place at best. Many men feel so much pressure to be the bold, confident, charming, sexy partner or prospective partner women seek. Ladies also truly desire a man that they can trust. Allowing them to feel safe enough to surrender to their true feminine essence, which creates even more attraction.

The more masculine you are, the more feminine a woman feels. It's not just about acting a certain way or saying something you think she wants to hear. It's about embodying your natural masculine essence with integrity, in a mature and safe manner. This masculine energy can be felt by those around you, without you actually doing anything. 

The few men who have achieved this level of embodiment are in a different league and often have little to no competition when it comes to attracting a woman they desire. They are playing by different rules than that of the average man.

Femininity is more about inner feelings and 'being', while masculinity tends to be more about mental logic and 'doing'. Men need to be in touch with both of these, in order to access their full potential. How can you attract or thrive with the feminine, if you don't know how to speak feminine? This may all sound a bit confusing...

DemystifyHer For Men - Dec 18 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

You will be invited to ask questions related to your specific challenges to do with dating apps and online dating

Dating Apps Decoded - Dec 18 (Online) - The Attraxion Playhouse

Enrich Your Romantic Life in a Fun & Interactive Way - For Women and Men (Singles & Couples)

Why do people seem to struggle finding fulfilling romantic opportunities in a digital world where there are so many more options available in the 2020s?

Nowadays, so many frustrated women tell me how often they struggle to find men who are bold, confident, charming, sexy and most importantly, men who they can trust, allowing them to feel safe enough to be in their true feminine essence and to have fun doing so.

Meanwhile, many men feel so much pressure to be all of the above and still have tons of often self-unaware, more aggressive guys out there to compete with. So much so, that many men just don't even take action. Better safe than sorry, right?... Besides, we've mostly never been taught how this all really works anyway!

 is here! Open to adult singles and couples. Conducted in English.

Imagine being in a fun, safe space where men and women come together to be supported in real time by a charismatic dating and intimacy coach who has been helping bridge the gap between the sexes for about 26 years. A well-rounded gentleman who has been empowering women and men using a very practical, natural and personalised approach. Often drawing from his keen intuition, accumulated knowledge, years of experience and his education in fields such as relationship psychology, human behaviour, public speaking, theatre, all the way to branding, marketing, self development, spirituality and energy modalities.

This event will be in English only and the location will be sent out beforehand.

You can purchase a ticket for Flirty Friday on this page using a Credit Card, a Debit Card, Apple Pay or Google Pay. If you would like to use PayPal or pay in cash on the day of the event, please email me on 

I am also offering private coaching sessions for individuals 1:1, for couples and also for custom groups, both in person and online, so feel free to contact me about those options too.

If there's still time left on Flirty Friday, I will also share some bonus tips on how to thrive on dating apps by increasing your probability of matching with the sizzling type of prospect you are swiping for.

This Playshop is a fully-clothed, social, educational event, so please bring a pen and pad or be prepared to take written notes on your phone. Recording of any video or audio is not permitted.

There will be some fun educational and interactive games to help demonstrate the interpersonal skills I'm teaching, so you can practice them straight away.

If you have any questions, please feel free to email me.

Flirty Friday, Ibiza - Nov 25 - The Attraxion Playhouse

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How do you magnify your attraction and sex appeal, whether you’re single or in a relationship?

It's podcast time!
Let’s have fun exploring these saucy topics and chat about safer, healthier romantic coupling. From a modern (sigma-inspired), compassionate and holistic perspective.

Offering tips, sharing real-life love stories and inviting various guest practitioners to come and vibe on these topics together. 

Sound good? Great... it’s a date! 🔥

Follow Love Code: SIGMA on your favourite podcast platform for upcoming juicy episodes and of course, press play! 😉🎧▶️
Subscribe and listen here:
https://bit.ly/LOVE-Code-SIGMA-Podcast

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How do you magnify your attraction and sex appeal, whether you’re single or in a relationship?

Let’s have fun exploring these saucy topics and chat about safer, healthier romantic coupling. From a modern (sigma-inspired), compassionate and holistic perspective.

Offering tips, sharing real-life love stories and inviting various guest practitioners to come and vibe on these topics together. 

Follow Love Code: SIGMA on your favourite podcast platform for upcoming juicy episodes and of course, press play! 😉🎧▶️

Listen to the LOVE Code: SIGMA Podcast

"My partner and I had been struggling to work through some recurring issues by ourselves for quite some time and knew we needed some pragmatic, solution-based support to move forward. I've always been quite hesitant about working with male coaches or therapists, never really quite feeling comfortable with them, but Ryan has so much warmth about him, I was surprised to notice how safe I felt during our initial conversation before the session. Wonderfully, my partner felt the same.
We both noted how he has a really safe, nurturing and loving masculine energy which neither of us had really encountered in many men in our lives. For my partner, this created a feeling of a strong positive modelling of masculinity that he'd not had in his own life and for me, Ryan's ability to hold space with a combination of strength, gentleness and boundaries dissolved my usual mistrust of men which has also been core to some of our issues. 
We both quite enjoyed filling out the short form he sent us beforehand, and though it felt like he really took the time to get to know us before diving in to exploring solutions, the first session alone gave us alot of insights and we left feeling resourced around next steps. He validated our respective experiences and even whilst recognising where we might be going wrong, acknowledged each of our reasons for doing so in a way that felt loving and relatable, never judgemental or accusatory. 
Ultimately, working with Ryan felt like hanging out over a glass of wine with a really wise, lovely friend who had both of our best interests at heart and wants to see us succeed.
I can't recommend him highly enough!"
Stephanie, Life Coach, 2023


"Through Ryan’s mentoring I have learned how to not take things personally, which has been a big problem for me in the past. I have given myself a hard time when a guy has shut down a relationship, backed off or walked away because of their own issues but they have also projected their issues onto me! Learning about projection was vital because people can project without even realising what they’re doing, and this is toxic!
​With Ryan’s wise guidance I was able to see the light and recognise that I was doing all I could in my relationship and that my partner (at the time) would not meet me in the middle!
​I felt supported and encouraged by Ryan’s mentoring, he views a situation from the outside, he looks closely, investigates and then explains what is happening. Being able to turn to Ryan has saved me from falling into other toxic situations.
​Ryan understands that every individual is different, everyone has different perceptions of what love is and how they approach finding meaningful relationships. How important communication is and discussing exactly what a person wants first, before anything can happen! Through Ryan’s guidance, I have been able to understand that what people want must be respected and that it is just different from what we want sometimes, and there is no point in pushing someone to be something, or to want the same as you, when clearly, they do not!
​Be that confident person, know your worth and know what you want and move forward, keep your options open and you’ll know when you’ve found that true love, if that’s what you desire!"
​Carly, She/Her, Freelancer, 2020


"Literally the world around me was full of potential but I was like a camera with a lens cap on, basically doing nothing. Days turned into months and months turned into years. Before I knew it, I was a 27 years old virgin man, struggling with life and unfortunately struggling to make friends or any sort of new friendship. The loneliness just seemed to be my way of life at this point.
​No partner and definitely not sexually active. Watching all my friends flourishing around me in relationships and marriages, I felt this void would never truly be filled for me. I knew where I stood and I knew what could be achieved but I frustratingly couldn't see the steps to get there!
​This is the stuff I began to learn with Ryan. Having zero sexual experience at my age, it was refreshing to hear from a trusted source and not the stuff we think is correct, such as pornographic content and unfortunately still, many unhealthy cultural norms. Learning how to effectively communicate better with the opposite sex is such an important and yet underrated skill. As a man, learning not to pretend to be something you are not, trying to portray this façade you think someone will love and accept. Having respect for myself too.
​The way you treat yourself and carry yourself will set the tone for how people treat you.
​I began to believe in myself and started to understand the ways of handling my emotions. Also starting to realize I can't control the actions of others and that truly I could only control mine. And that's what I needed to do.
​I can recall one incident where a female friend of mine saw me walking across the street as she was driving. She pulled over to offer me a lift but I ran away, yes literally ran away! I know that raises so many questions, and frankly speaking, it happened so involuntarily. Yes, there was no threat or danger to my life or well-being in that moment. So what made me do that?!
​​Eventually I did find myself in a situation where I could progress and make a decent connection with a woman I met on a dating app. That led to me finally 'losing my virginity,' as they say. Interesting experience to say the least. It was surprisingly calmer than I expected it to be, but overall it was a good first time and she also had positive things to say, as if I'm a veteran at this! I'm grateful for the guidance I received beforehand as I have heard some first times don't go so well and lead to instant regret. Thank you for lifting me up from the murky depths of self doubt. I am now a different man!"
​Anon, He/Him, University Student, 2022

<div class="mirror-content"><img alt="Image" class="image" src="https://cdn.lu.ma/cdn-cgi/image/format=auto,dpr=2,quality=85,width=291/editor-images/b8/64a07c48-c1e3-4702-ba40-51e2899d5f41" style="display:block;max-width:100%;max-height:100%;margin:24px auto"/>​&quot;My partner and I had been struggling to work through some recurring issues by ourselves for quite some time and knew we needed some pragmatic, solution-based support to move forward. I&#x27;ve always been quite hesitant about working with male coaches or therapists, never really quite feeling comfortable with them, but Ryan has so much warmth about him, I was surprised to notice how safe I felt during our initial conversation before the session. Wonderfully, my partner felt the same.​We both noted how he has a really safe, nurturing and loving masculine energy which neither of us had really encountered in many men in our lives. For my partner, this created a feeling of a strong positive modelling of masculinity that he&#x27;d not had in his own life and for me, Ryan&#x27;s ability to hold space with a combination of strength, gentleness and boundaries dissolved my usual mistrust of men which has also been core to some of our issues. ​We both quite enjoyed filling out the short form he sent us beforehand, and though it felt like he really took the time to get to know us before diving in to exploring solutions, the first session alone gave us alot of insights and we left feeling resourced around next steps. He validated our respective experiences and even whilst recognising where we might be going wrong, acknowledged each of our reasons for doing so in a way that felt loving and relatable, never judgemental or accusatory. ​Ultimately, working with Ryan felt like hanging out over a glass of wine with a really wise, lovely friend who had both of our best interests at heart and wants to see us succeed.​I can&#x27;t recommend him highly enough!&quot;​Stephanie, Life Coach, 2023​<img alt="Image" class="image" src="https://cdn.lu.ma/cdn-cgi/image/format=auto,dpr=2,quality=85,width=291/editor-images/b8/64a07c48-c1e3-4702-ba40-51e2899d5f41" style="display:block;max-width:100%;max-height:100%;margin:24px auto"/>​&quot;Through Ryan’s mentoring I have learned how to not take things personally, which has been a big problem for me in the past. I have given myself a hard time when a guy has shut down a relationship, backed off or walked away because of their own issues but they have also projected their issues onto me! Learning about projection was vital because people can project without even realising what they’re doing, and this is toxic!​​With Ryan’s wise guidance I was able to see the light and recognise that I was doing all I could in my relationship and that my partner (at the time) would not meet me in the middle!​​I felt supported and encouraged by Ryan’s mentoring, he views a situation from the outside, he looks closely, investigates and then explains what is happening. Being able to turn to Ryan has saved me from falling into other toxic situations.​​Ryan understands that every individual is different, everyone has different perceptions of what love is and how they approach finding meaningful relationships. How important communication is and discussing exactly what a person wants first, before anything can happen! Through Ryan’s guidance, I have been able to understand that what people want must be respected and that it is just different from what we want sometimes, and there is no point in pushing someone to be something, or to want the same as you, when clearly, they do not!​​Be that confident person, know your worth and know what you want and move forward, keep your options open and you’ll know when you’ve found that true love, if that’s what you desire!&quot;​​Carly, She/Her, Freelancer, 2020​<img alt="Image" class="image" src="https://cdn.lu.ma/cdn-cgi/image/format=auto,dpr=2,quality=85,width=291/editor-images/b8/64a07c48-c1e3-4702-ba40-51e2899d5f41" style="display:block;max-width:100%;max-height:100%;margin:24px auto"/>​&quot;Literally the world around me was full of potential but I was like a camera with a lens cap on, basically doing nothing. Days turned into months and months turned into years. Before I knew it, I was a 27 years old virgin man, struggling with life and unfortunately struggling to make friends or any sort of new friendship. The loneliness just seemed to be my way of life at this point.​​No partner and definitely not sexually active. Watching all my friends flourishing around me in relationships and marriages, I felt this void would never truly be filled for me. I knew where I stood and I knew what could be achieved but I frustratingly couldn&#x27;t see the steps to get there!​​This is the stuff I began to learn with Ryan. Having zero sexual experience at my age, it was refreshing to hear from a trusted source and not the stuff we think is correct, such as pornographic content and unfortunately still, many unhealthy cultural norms. Learning how to effectively communicate better with the opposite sex is such an important and yet underrated skill. As a man, learning not to pretend to be something you are not, trying to portray this façade you think someone will love and accept. Having respect for myself too.​​The way you treat yourself and carry yourself will set the tone for how people treat you.​​I began to believe in myself and started to understand the ways of handling my emotions. Also starting to realize I can&#x27;t control the actions of others and that truly I could only control mine. And that&#x27;s what I needed to do.​​I can recall one incident where a female friend of mine saw me walking across the street as she was driving. She pulled over to offer me a lift but I ran away, yes literally ran away! I know that raises so many questions, and frankly speaking, it happened so involuntarily. Yes, there was no threat or danger to my life or well-being in that moment. So what made me do that?!​​​Eventually I did find myself in a situation where I could progress and make a decent connection with a woman I met on a dating app. That led to me finally &#x27;losing my virginity,&#x27; as they say. Interesting experience to say the least. It was surprisingly calmer than I expected it to be, but overall it was a good first time and she also had positive things to say, as if I&#x27;m a veteran at this! I&#x27;m grateful for the guidance I received beforehand as I have heard some first times don&#x27;t go so well and lead to instant regret. Thank you for lifting me up from the murky depths of self doubt. I am now a different man!&quot;​​Anon, He/Him, University Student, 2022</div>

Gratitude from Clients

​The Attraxion Playhouse is excited to introduce Flirtylicious In-Person & Online ❤️
​For singles seeking to attract that special someone and for couples looking to spice up their romantic life amidst these dampening times.


​Flirtylicious is a series of in-person or online Playshops.
Think of a Playshop as a fun Masterclass where we will come together to learn about human attraction and flirting. These will be attended by both men and women.

For more information and to join the waiting list, please visit:
https://bit.ly/Flirtylicious
​Wishing you a fun and flirty 2023

Ryan

<div class="mirror-content">​​The Attraxion Playhouse is excited to introduce Flirtylicious In-Person &amp; Online ❤️​​For singles seeking to attract that special someone and for couples looking to spice up their romantic life amidst these dampening times.​<img alt="Image" class="image" src="https://images.lumacdn.com/cdn-cgi/image/format=auto,dpr=2,quality=85,width=800/editor-images/36/c3b34798-d89c-42f3-bc60-ad1719a5a296" style="display:block;max-width:100%;max-height:400px;margin:24px auto"/>​​Flirtylicious is a series of in-person or online Playshops.​Think of a Playshop as a fun Masterclass where we will come together to learn about human attraction and flirting. These will be attended by both men and women. For more information and to join the waiting list, please visit:​<a href="https://bit.ly/Flirtylicious" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">https://bit.ly/Flirtylicious</a>​​Wishing you a fun and flirty 2023 Ryan</div>

​The Attraxion Playhouse is excited to introduce Flirtylicious In-Person & Online ❤️

​For singles seeking to attract that special someone and for couples looking to spice up their romantic life amidst these dampening times.

​Flirtylicious is a series of in-person or online Playshops.

Think of a Playshop as a fun Masterclass where we will come together to learn about human attraction and flirting. These will be attended by both men and women.

For more information and to join the waiting list, please visit: