❤️🔥 In Relationship With x 💙 Asian Mental Health Project | Sharing Resentment When You're Conflict-Avoidant
Note on the session: This live session will be recorded and accessible to the facilitators, Kevin and Stephanie. They will use it to write a follow-up summary and post the recorded part of only their story on YouTube. Due to the privacy and protection of folks who attend the session, the rest of the recording will not be published or accessible at all.
--
When we feel hurt during conflict, sometimes we may be afraid to fully express our turbulent, inner worlds.
😫 How could you that to me? I really hate this.
😕 Don’t you see all the effort I’m putting in? You take me for granted.
🤬 Shouldn’t you this understand by now? I don’t want to spell things out again.
Maybe we don’t express ourselves because we think it will be too much or seen as too childish… or perhaps we’re conflict-averse and are afraid of hurting another person’s feelings—whatever the case, this can create resentment.
Resentment is a sharp emotion that is triggered by a perception of unfairness, built over time.
Asian culture can influence us to stomach hard emotions like these, and the result?
Ruptured relationships between parents and children, and the cycle continues in the way we show up in our relationships.
Join us as we examine what contributes to resentment and how we can create safety to explore this emotion:
Where might I be overextending? Where is the other person dropping the ball?
When do I not feel safe? What parts of me do I want to protect?
What stories do I need to make explicit? How can I make these parts of me known?
Relational dynamics facilitators, Kevin and Stephanie, will unpack these themes in this Brave Conversations session.
We’ll specifically explore:
❤️🔥 Normalizing healthy expression of anger: Honoring anger, so that further exploration of emotions can be possible
❤️🔥 Positive reinforcement: Creating feedback loops where risk-taking is met with understanding
❤️🔥 Tools for relating: Clearing
It’s safe to say that Kevin and Stephanie’s Asian experience has lots of complexity, and while their experience isn’t representative of all Asian cultures, their intention is to create a space to normalize having conversations about these themes.
Join us as we unpack what sharing resentment when you are conflict-averse can look like.